Pleasure. Freedom. Exploration.
Choosing a sex toy isn't just ticking a box on a naughty wishlist. It's an invitation to (re)discover yourself, listen to your desires, explore fantasies, and nurture pleasure—alone or together.
At Obsenza, we see sex toys as allies in intimate well-being. Whether you're reconnecting with your body, discovering new erogenous zones, or simply adding a touch of eroticism to your daily life, the right sex toy can transform your relationship with sexuality. Here's our guide to choosing the one that will awaken your senses.
1. Reconnecting with Your Desires
Before thinking about shape, color, or material, ask yourself: What am I looking for in a sex toy?
- Something for solo pleasure or to spice up couple moments?
- Clitoral, vaginal, or anal stimulation?
- A sensory, gentle experience or intense sensations?
- A dominant/submissive play in a BDSM context?
Sex toys exist to fulfill a desire, need, or fantasy. The clearer your intention, the more natural your choice will be.
2. Know the Different Types of Sex Toys
The world of sex toys is vast, varied, and sometimes overwhelming for beginners. Here are the main categories:
Clitoral Stimulators
These are the most popular. About 75% of women reach orgasm through clitoral stimulation. They come as small vibrators, suction toys (like the Womanizer), or ergonomic and design-forward objects.
Vaginal Vibrators
Straight or curved for the G-spot, often with vibrating tips—ideal for those who enjoy internal stimulation.
Anal Toys
Plugs, vibrating toys, beads: designed for safe and pleasurable anal exploration. Always choose a toy with a flared base.
Vibrating Rings
Mainly for partnered play, they extend erections and stimulate both partners. Great for curious couples.
BDSM Accessories
Whips, cuffs, clamps, collars, tail plugs... The fetish world offers tools for playing with power and sensation.
3. Materials, Design & Hygiene
The quality of a toy largely depends on its material:
- Medical-grade silicone: soft, non-porous, hypoallergenic. A gold standard.
- Glass: aesthetic, easy to clean, great for temperature play.
- Stainless steel: cold, heavy, luxurious. Ideal for intense sensations.
- ABS plastic: used in many vibrators, often combined with silicone.
Avoid cheap jelly or PVC toys—they're porous, less safe, and degrade quickly.
4. For Beginners: Where to Start
If you're new to toys, start simple:
- A small clitoral vibe to get familiar with sensations.
- A mini anal plug to explore gently.
- A pair of cuffs or a blindfold for sensory play.
The key is to listen to your reactions. Pleasure is a journey, not a performance.
5. For Couples: Seduction & Discovery
Sex toys aren't just for solo fun. They can become a bridge between partners—a game, a language, a surprise. Ideas:
- A wearable, remote-controlled vibrator during dinner.
- A jeweled plug to rediscover anal play.
- A cane or flogger to contrast softness with intensity.
6. Caring for Your Toys (and Yourself)
Clean your toy before and after each use with mild soap or a toy cleaner. Store it in a clean pouch away from dust and humidity.
Use lube (make sure it's compatible with your toy—no silicone lube with silicone toys), and most of all: take your time. Pleasure starts with self-respect.
7. Trust Yourself
There is no one-size-fits-all. There's the toy that fits you, right now. Your desires evolve—your play can too. Let curiosity guide you.
At Obsenza, we believe in conscious, creative, liberated sexuality. We’re here to guide you through your sensual journey.
Pleasure to give, pleasure to feel. Discover our curated collections and find the toy that will make you tremble with delight.
